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What do I do if I hate my engagement ring?
Not Loving the Ring
Dear Not Loving,
There are a few approaches to this problem. First, I suggest you examine why you don’t like it. Does it have to do with the setting? Cut of the stone? Size of the stone? Type of stone? All of these questions will play into which approach you end up taking.
If nothing else, please realize that this ring is something given to you during the proposal, so hopefully it has at least some sentimental value. “Hate” is a really strong word. Is there a chance you can eventually learn to love (or at least tolerate) this ring? If so, that’s definitely the easiest and least confrontational option.
The next option – tell your fiancé that it just isn’t your style. Depending on why it isn’t your style, your fiancé’s feelings will likely end up hurt by this admission. The main risk here – the ring might not be returnable, meaning your fiancé will end up knowing that you don’t like the ring but unable to really do anything about it.
In an ideal world, you’ll confess to your fiancé that you don’t like the ring and will be able to exchange it for something that’s more your taste. Realize, though – this will not be the ring used during the proposal. It will be more your style, but you won’t have the knowledge that it was chosen by your fiancé specifically for you.
For those of you who have yet to receive a ring – the obvious strategy is to give a little guidance. If there’s anything about the ring that’s non-negotiable for you, the time to reveal that information is not after the proposal has already occurred.
Was your ring not 100% to your liking? How did you handle that situation? Let me know in the comments below!